Switching Spanking Roles and Domestic Discipline

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A discussion at Radspace , “ The Top’s Version Of Annoying Brattiness ”got me thinking about how men and women approach spanking differently .
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Men like to get on with it , women like to talk first .
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Most men are initally drawn to the spanker role , most women the spankee role .
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Men can compartmentalise their spanking personas , women , in general , take a while to switch roles , either from “ real “ life to a spanking role or from spankee to spanker .
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Domestic discipline ( DD ) revolves around a Head of Household ( HOH ) , which is generally the man , being in control . Is it possible to “ top from the bottom “ in this situation ? Many years ago I read a magazine article about a man and a few girls on a yacht . Of course the girls were all spanked during the weekend and finished with him on all fours on the receiving end , which he explained by asking “ Why should they have all the fun ? “ . At the time the story seemed about as likely as the “ plot “ in many spanking videos these days . But , why not ? If a DD couple are happy to switch roles to please the HOH , why not spank the HOH and still have them in charge ? Could this be such a difficult theory in practice ?
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Let’s go back to Radspace and this comment :
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" What gets me are the people who have hare-brained ( I think the word she meant was “ hairbrained “ , “ Time for your lesson , Girl , come here ! “ , sorry , got carried away . OK , both are acceptable as single words , but not as two words , anyway the spanking will be over before she finds this out ! ) philosophies, such as those who profess to be disciplinarians and honestly believe that they are improving the lives of the bottoms they punish, or visa versa. Excuse me, but you know what improves the lives of people? When people learn to behave like adults and take responsibility for their own actions! Bending someone over and spanking them like a naughty child doesn’t accomplish maturity or personal growth. Yeah, it might work as a motivational tool, it might be fun, and it might be highly erotic too, but let’s not kid ourselves about this whole making-better-people-through-spanking nonsense. "
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People learn when pleasurable , Serotonin producing , experiences are present such as having a partner associate spanking with pleasure over time . Conversely , spanking as a non consensual punishment is negative and a turn off in many ways .
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The Theory of Transactional Analysis helps us to understand some spanking situations where we temporarily step into another ego state . I think this is a better way of understanding the so called " power exchange " which occurs in DD .
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Games People Play : The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis .
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If one partner in a DD relationship has transgressed , a spanking may quickly “ clear the air “ and be a positive experience if negative comments are kept to a minimum. Spankings can be suggested by either party for many reasons . A little " bratting " or " topping " can be fun , but is it not a better “ mature “ thing to request a spanking rather than provoking or trying to trap someone into a spanking ? A vibrant spanking relationship is when you can ask for and receive a spanking when you want one , with no strings attached .
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