Sexual Fantasy Or Who's Been Sleeping In Your Head

.

.

.

( These photographs are from PostSecret , " an ongoing community art project where people mail in their secrets anonymously on one side of a postcard " . I am using them here as examples of fantasies involving ( or suggesting ) spanking . )

.
Who's Been Sleeping In Your Head: The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies is written by Brett Kahr, a British psychotherapist , who has made a study of the sexual fantasies of 23,000 adults .

.

These are some of his results :

.

16% of women say that they don't fantasise ( men 4% )

90% of adults fantasise about someone other than the person they are sleeping with
85% have never shared their deepest fantasies , nor have engaged in them
41% imagine sex with someone else's partner
39% fantasise about sex with someone at work
25% ( particularly men and young adults ) fantasise about male and female celebrities
18% of women fantasise about sex with more than one man at a time
28% of women fantasise about sex with two men
58% fantasise about sex with two women
25% fantasise about being tied up

.
Spanking Results :
.
18% of men and 7% of women fantasise about spanking someone
11% of men and 13% of women fantasise about being spanked
.
" He explains how he helped a young man who couldn't get turned on by his girlfriend but only by dominatrix-themed porn ... " , an " anatomy of secret desire " and " ..... how numerous men and women used fantasy to become more intimate with their partners--or to be unfaithful or even cruel to them instead . "
.
Conclusions ( and How to Turn Fantasy into Reality ) :
.
From my point of view the " 85% have never shared their deepest fantasies , nor have engaged in them " is the most significant ( and unfortunately not unsurprising ) result . Anyone who is truly a Spankophile has to come to terms about their deep interest in spanking with any partner ( or prospective partner , including both Life and Spanking Partners ) . This is a " hot " topic for me as I see a friend's relationship of over 7 years being torn apart by a partners lack of understanding of a need to be spanked . Spanking may not be Ground Zero in the break up , but it is not far from it .
.
Anyone in this position should remember : “ This above all : to thine own self be true , And it must follow , as the night the day , Thou canst not then be false to any man . “ In other words , once you know what you want ( and how strongly you want it ) , the more likely you are to find the right person ( or persons ) for a long term spanking relationship . ( From : Finding ( and Keeping ) Spanking Partners . )
.

.

Spankoz Converting a Vanilla Page

.

Finding ( and Keeping ) Spanking Partners ( Another video showing how to discuss and participate in spanking is on the " Lovebites " Post . )

.

.

SPANKOZ SPANKING BLOG INDEX

.

Become a Spankoz Member Now - Instant Access