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It would be nice to be able to say that what follows will tell all that needs to be known about finding , developing and keeping spanking partners . ( The Spankoz Spanking Prospecting Page is a good starting point for information gathering , remembering Mrs. Beeton's soup recipe advice “ first go out and catch your hare “ . ) . However , as each person’s situation is different , read , discuss and , if possible , experience spanking until you have found what your needs are . Remember : “ This above all : to thine own self be true , And it must follow , as the night the day , Thou canst not then be false to any man . “ In other words , once you know what you want ( and how strongly you want it ) , the more likely you are to find the right person ( or persons ) for a long term spanking relationship .
There are three main ways of finding spanking partners :
1. Direct contact by dropping hints to potential partners in " normal " conversation . I call this activity " prospecting " ( a' la Amway ) . Why not stage a performance of " Kiss Me Kate " ? Here is a video clip ; " Spank Me " which may be of use as a F/M conversation starter . Of course , the M/F counterpart is ; Madonna's " Hanky Panky " .
2. Advertising on " vanilla " dating sites ( newspapers , etc . ) . Start out by searching for " spanking " or spanking related terms , such as " discipline " . Some sites are very sensitive to these words . At the worst something like " DD " is subtle enough to show your interest to like minded people .
3. Advertising on adult personals sites which offer a much higher success rate . The catch is that , although placing an ad is free , anything else generally costs money .
An example is my own situation , see My Personal Advertisement ( Which goes slightly beyond a spanking relationship . ) .
All relationships need truth , trust , effort and accommodation . Spanking relationships may also need a lot of preparatory work when people are new to spanking , see : the Spankoz Converting a Vanilla Page . Like most worthwhile things , building a relationship may take time , even years .
Some spanking advice is not very good . An example , spanking advice was given to a young man about telling his girlfriend of his spanking interest . This advice was published on the English newspaper site , News of the World .The person who gave the advice may well have an alphabet of letters after her name , but she was not a " spanko " . Click here for the question , answer and my comment .
Men can go too much on appearance , rather than taking the time to get to know the potential partner . Women may go on what they think a spanking partner is looking for , rather than what they actually want . I added these two sentences because of yet another example of media sexism in reporting the first meeting of the Australian Prime Minister and President Obama , a lot of commentary on what the husbands have to say and then go on to to talk about what the wives are wearing . The public already knows that Michelle Obama is not stupid , neither is Therese Rein . With this sort of media rubbish , it is no wonder that so many find it hard to see what really matters in life ( including relationships ) .
This may be of background interest in seeking to anyone wishing to " change " a partner ( From " Sam " , SMH ) :
" Top 10 things women would change about their man :
1 Weight , 2 : Dress sense , 3 : Hair ( or lack of ) , 4 : Teeth , 5 : Height , 6 : Man boobs , 7 : Nose , 8 : Feet , 9 : Legs , 10: Bum
According to a startling survey , roughly half of all women in relationships want to change their man , specifically in the looks department . Their primary aim ? To change his hairstyle . Of course , it doesn't help the credibility of the survey that it was undertaken by hair care brand VO5 , but nevertheless perhaps the responses of the 3000 women polled does in fact indicate something about the state of the expectations of the modern woman : we'll settle with you as long as we can change you ...
The surprising part of the survey for me was that despite a man's worst pet hate being the fact that their partner tries to change them , ( ask any man and they'll wholeheartedly concur ) , the poll discovered that a whopping 55% of respondents reckon their boyfriend or husband didn't mind that they were trying to mould them into someone else ! Obviously these women are mightily mistaken . "
.......................... Surely , a short spanking would remedy this confusion !
Now , a video to show how the introductory spanking should be done :
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Abby receives her very first bare-bottom spanking for repeatedly exceeding the credit limit on her American Express . She resists the spanking initially , but finally succumbs to the inevitable , whimpering as each stinging stroke is firmly applied to her unprotected rear . Her delicate , never-spanked white bottom quickly turns a rosy shade after just a few smacks from her loving husband's very skilled hand . After her spanking is complete , she warmly embraces him , in apparent appreciation for her much-needed discipline session .
NOTE FROM ABBY's HUSBAND : This really was Abby's first time ever getting a spanking , so it took a lot of convincing before she allowed me to post this video . However I can also tell you that Abby is a bit of an exhibitionist , and she genuinely looks forward to reading the comments each day. So if you insist , she just might be coerced into baring her bottom once again . Please let her know what you think . "
( NOTE : I wonder if she has asked him how he gained his spanking expertise ? )
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( Another video showing how to discuss and participate in spanking is on the " Lovebites " Post . )
Does the Truth Help or Hurt Relationships ?
Cigi's advice : Finding Spanking Partners ( Well worth reading ! ) .
One man's story : Learning to Crawl .
Another man's story : Larry Smith ( " Smith " , Hm . )
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